How to Develop Mindsets for Compassion and Caring in Students

Early in his career Dr. Robert Brooks became the principal of a school in a locked-door unit at McLean Psychiatric Hospital. He and his staff of teachers worked with children and adolescents who were severely disturbed and whose behavior showed their turmoil. Within the first few months, Brooks felt demoralized and dreaded work each day.

“I had a very negative mindset,” Brooks said at a Learning and the Brain conference on mindsets in San Francisco. Brooks is now a psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and is the author of over a dozen books, including Raising Resilient Children. He has spent his career researching how to help develop resilience in children and adults, working extensively with educators in many contexts.

Brooks’ experiences at McLean gave him insight and empathy for how difficult teaching can be, especially when students don’t outwardly appear to want to learn. When faced with so many challenging students, he felt like nothing he or his staff did would make a difference for how much kids learned or their behavior. He began to feel that when they were released from the hospital they would likely end up on drugs, in jail or dead.

“What I realized is when you feel you are losing control in a classroom, you become more controlling,” Brooks said. But as he and his staff tried to make their students do exactly as they said, they only behaved worse and learned less.

“What changed was a group of courageous educators who totally shifted their mindsets, and when they shifted their mindsets they shifted the practices they were using,” Brooks said.

RESEARCH ON RESILIENCE

When Brooks speaks with teachers, he always tries to remember how he felt in his lowest moments at McLean. He remembers that he was so emotionally depleted that he probably wouldn’t have been able to hear advice from even the most accomplished experts. But he has found that often discouraged educators respond to his message about helping students to develop mindsets for caring and compassion when they hear about the research.

Julius Segal’s work on the factors that help kids overcome adversity is particularly powerful. He found that the common denominator among kids who’d overcome great hardship to succeed was the presence of a “charismatic adult” in their lives. Segal defined that person as an “adult from whom children gather strength,” and specifically said often that person is a teacher.

“We have to start with the assumption that everything you do in the classroom can have a major impact on a child’s life, not only in the classroom but later, too,” Brooks said. He stressed that teachers can have meaningful impact with even small gestures of kindness, dignity and respect for students. Greeting students by name at the door and smiling are two easy things that students themselves identified as making a big difference in creating a welcoming environment. Spending a little time getting to know kids individually also goes a long way.

At McLean, Brooks began to notice some important practices that made the most difference for school climate, student motivation and the staff’s ability to build relationships with students. He has since researched many of these early observations and has found that what worked anecdotally in his personal experience was true for many other kids in less severe situations too.

“One key ingredient I found is that students will feel more motivated if they have some say over what happens in the classroom,” Brooks said. That doesn’t mean he advocates that teachers give over all their authority to the students, but it could mean creating a student advisory panel in charge of making decisions about space within the school. Or involving students in the process of developing class rules and consequences so that discipline is no longer a long list of “dos and don’ts.”

Another major finding: “Kids will be more caring and compassionate and resilient in those environments where they feel they are making a difference,” Brooks said. Sometimes teachers push back against this idea, wondering why students who haven’t finished their own work should be given jobs helping others. Brooks responds that every student should feel like he or she is contributing to the class, and when that type of environment is fostered, motivation flourishes. “Caring leads to resilience,” Brooks said.

Brooks also began to realize that part of the reason he had been so negative about his students at McLean was a tendency to focus on their deficits. He began to look for their strengths instead, what he calls “islands of competence.”

“If you just focus on what’s wrong with kids and you don’t spend as much time on what their strengths or beauty are, kids know that,” he said. It’s hard for a child to have a resilient mindset when he believes everyone thinks he’s bad.

Teachers often complain about a lack of student motivation, but Brooks cautions educators not to jump to conclusions about students. No student wants to fail; humans have a natural “drive for effectiveness,” and the unmotivated affect some students show may really be “avoidance motivation.”

“It’s not that they’re not motivated,” Brooks said, “they’re just not motivated to do what we would like them to do.” Instead, they put all their energy into avoiding work that might lead them to fail, or that they don’t find relevant to their lives. There are lots of reasons kids might be motivated to avoid, but calling them lazy or lacking in perseverance or grit is not likely to improve attitudes.

“Once you say a kid is unmotivated or doesn’t care, you’re already reflecting a mindset in which you’re blaming the child, whether you mean to or not,” Brooks said. It’s far more productive to ask questions about why a student might be avoiding work. Getting rid of the accusatory stance will actually free educators to think more creatively about how to help students find purpose, make them feel like they belong, and help them see their own strengths.

A social worker Brooks knows came up with one such creative solution for five of the most problematic students in the school. She made those five students the committee to study how to improve attendance. She asked them to come up with two or three reasons kids don’t come to school and two to three reasons kids want to come to school. They then poured over attendance data and made it their personal mission to convince specific kids to come to school more often. The attendance committee — who had themselves been absent the most — felt like they were contributing, and three months later they hadn’t missed a day of school.

SUPPORTING TEACHERS TO SHIFT MINDSETS

Brooks acknowledges that this is not easy work. Some students take a long time to warm up to adults, often pushing a potential ally away just when it seems like progress is being made. And it’s very difficult for teachers not to take behavior personally, to continue reaching out and finding student strengths. Brooks recommends a few activities to help teacher develop “stress hardiness” and ward against burnout.

Reflecting on why they became teachers in the first place can be an effective way to gain perspective. Brooks recommends school principals devote some staff meeting time to reflection on the qualities adults in a school remember about their favorite teachers. These conversations get educators thinking about whether their own students would describe them the same way they are positively describing their favorite teachers. The exercise can sometimes help illuminate ways that a teacher might be more welcoming to a student or offer more opportunities for choice.

Resilience in teachers is just as important as it is in students. Teachers who are less stressed are able to see changes in the school as inevitable. They seek opportunities to learn from change, rather than seeing it only as a challenge. Resilient people also tend not to blame other people or themselves when things go wrong. Instead, they look for proactive ways to improve the situation.

“Resilient people basically look at what they have control over and they don’t waste time on what they don’t,” Brooks said. So, for example, a teacher has no control over how prepared students are when they enter her classroom, or what kind of experiences they’ve had at home. But she can control how she interacts with those students, so she focuses there.

“It’s not easy to change mindsets,” Brooks admits, but he’s optimistic about the power such a shift can have on school culture, and on educators’ ability to grow mindsets of caring and compassion in their students. “One of the most important things you can do is model compassion,” he said. “Do you model caring? Do you make every child feel they belong in the classroom? It’s not that you have a formal lecture on this.”

He laments what he views as a false dichotomy between social and emotional skills and academics in classrooms. He often hears from teachers that the strategies he advocates take time away from academics, but he firmly believes students won’t learn without attention to these issues. Increasingly, schools and districts are agreeing with him, putting more emphasis on non-academic skills for school and life success.

“You have to have a sense of meaning or purpose because if that’s not there we’re going to have kids who say that achievement and GPA is more important than compassion and caring,” Brooks said.

That may already be happening. One national survey of youth across the country found that they valued their own personal achievement above caring for others and they believed that their parents did, too. Brooks hopes that if every educator and parent focuses on helping students develop mindsets for caring, they can reverse that trend.

How to Change Mindsets

How do you Change Mindsets?

Can it even be done? Some would argue that at some point, no. At HeartBridge Learning Lab we say yes! But doing so requires focus, determination and a process.  A process proven to change mindsets.  And just where do you prove such a process? In a laboratory of course, in our case HeartBridge Learning Lab.

Step 1. Learn to hear your fixed mindset “voice”

fixed mindset voice
You have to recognize your “fixed ” mindset voice

As you approach a challenge, that voice might say to you “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.” “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure” “People will laugh at you for thinking you had talent.” “If you don’t try, you can protect yourself and keep your dignity.”

As you hit a setback, the voice might say, “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.” “You see, I told you it was a risk. Now you’ve gone and shown the world how limited you are.” “ It’s not too late to back out, make excuses, and try to regain your dignity.”

As you face criticism, you might hear yourself say, “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.” You might feel yourself getting angry at the person who is giving you feedback. “Who do they think they are? I’ll put them in their place.” The other person might be giving you specific, constructive feedback, but you might be hearing them say “I’m really disappointed in you. I thought you were capable but now I see you’re not.”

How to change a mindset

Step 2. Recognize that you have a choice

How you interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You can interpret them in a fixed mindset as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are lacking. Or you can interpret them in a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand your abilities. It’s up to you.

So as you face challenges, setbacks, and criticism, listen to the fixed mindset voice and…

Step 3. Talk back to it with a growth mindset voice

As you approach a challenge:

Fixed vs Growth Mindsets
Address the Fixed mindsets you recognize

THE FIXED-MINDSET says “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.”

THE GROWTH-MINDSET answers, “I’m not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to with time and effort.”

FIXED MINDSET: “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure”

GROWTH MINDSET: “Most successful people had failures along the way.”

FIXED MINDSET: “If you don’t try, you can protect yourself and keep your dignity.”

GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t try, I automatically fail. Where’s the dignity in that?”

As you hit a setback:

FIXED MINDSET: “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.”

GROWTH MINDSET: “That is so wrong. Basketball wasn’t easy for Michael Jordan and science wasn’t easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion and put in tons of effort.

As you face criticism:

FIXED MINDSET: “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.”

GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t take responsibility, I can’t fix it. Let me listen—however painful it is– and learn whatever I can.”

Then…

Step 4. Take the growth mindset action

Over time, which voice you heed becomes pretty much your choice. Whether you

  • take on the challenge wholeheartedly,
  • learn from your setbacks and try again
  • hear the criticism and act on it is now in your hands.

Practice hearing both voices, and practice acting on the growth mindset. See how you can make it work for you. It can truly change mindsets.

The HeartBridge Learning System

HeartBridge Learning System

HeartBridge Learning System

We believe

Students in the United States are facing daunting challenges like never before.  The pace of change is unprecedented, so much so that the rate of technological and cognitive expansion is unfathomable. The liberated sharing of knowledge worldwide is changing politics, social orders, education processes, business practices, and commercial endeavors at speeds never thought possible even in the last ten years. We have moved from learning in a one-room schoolhouse, where the teacher was the conduit of knowledge for multi-age apparatuses, having to impart thousands of pages of information to children in the short amount of time that they had with them, to presently learning from a handheld device that can give us instant information that used to take months, if not years, of research. What was once noteworthy and difficult to measure has developed into what is vastly insignificant and easy to measure.

And yet, with all of our advances, we have forgotten that learning is not only about the factual and the empirical. A man can learn all there is to know about physics, but be completely ignorant of morality and social responsibility. We have shifted our learning focus to what can be easily driven by data instead of what builds character and strength in our students.  21st Century readiness depends as much on how we learn as what we learn.

Educators and policy drivers in the United States are obsessed with our academic standing in the world, when no research suggests a that a country’s success is dependent on one country’s students knowing more than another country’s. Yes, the foundations of academic content should not only be taught but mastered, but non-cognitive skills should be given equal weight in order for our students to succeed in this new and ever-evolving environment.

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The Case For SEL (Social Emotional Learning)

social emotional learning in arkansas

Why Social Emotional Learning?

Social emotional learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make …read more (Definition from CASEL -Collaborative for Academic, Soscial and Emotional Learning)

Additional Reference Materials

http://www.edutopia.org/sel-research-annotated-bibliography: Website with comprehensive list of scientific studies on Social Emotional Learning and mindfulness.

“Creating Innovators: The Making of Young People Who Will Change the World,” Tony Wagner

Tim Brown’s TED Talks (http://www.ted.com/talks/tim_brown_urges_designers_to_think_big or http://www.ted.com/talks/tim_brown_on_creativity_and_play).

Why Empathy is as Important as Reading and Math, https://www.ashoka.org/press/henry-de-sio-why-empathy-important-reading-and-math

The Impact of Enhancing Students’ Social and Emotional Learning: A Meta-Analysis of School-Based Universal Interventions http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2010.01564.x/abstract

The Brookings Institute: http://www.brookings.edu/research/papers/2015/12/aei-brookings-poverty-and-opportunity-chapter-five-education

KQED/MindShift: http://ww2.kqed.org/mindshift/2015/12/10/why-identity-and-emotion-are-central-to-motivating-the-teen-brain/

SEL Outcomes for Students

SEL Outcomes for Students

SEL Outcomes for Students

Education has to be about our students are their development. In the past few years, it seems that that focus has shifted to national testing scores and how we are doing compared to other countries. But in that time, we have also had an increase in mass shootings, violent murders, and racially-charged hate crimes. We have forgotten that academics is just one aspect of education; the developing of socially minded and emotionally balanced young adults is the our responsibility as educators. Our focus has to shift back to producing students who are prepared to face the many challenges that are happening in our world today.

The benefits of SEL for our students are:

  • increased stress resilience
  • greater empathy
  • decrease in depressive symptoms
  • greater peer acceptance
  • increased academic performance
  • increased well-being
  • better college preparedness
  • decreased rates of substance use and abuse
  • greater financial stability
  • better overall physical health
  • changed mindsets

Students who receive SEL programming (as compared with control groups) perform:

  • 9 percentile points lower in emotional distress

Teachers surveyed overwhelmingly believe SEL programs benefit students by:

  • Preparing them for the workforce (87%)
  • Fostering good citizenship (87%)
  • Increasing their ability to be successful in school and ultimately graduate (80%)
  • Preparing them for college (78%)

SEL Outcomes for Schools

sel outcomes for arkansas

SEL Outcomes for Schools

Our children spend, on average, around 1,000 hours in school a year. That does not take into account the hours spent in extracurricular activities, school functions, etc. But the peak hours of the day are spent in actual instruction. Currently, SEL programs are only present (at least, with regards to real legislative action) in five states, and those programs are still in the early stages of development. That means that 45 states have little to know social-emotional instruction. When our children are spending a large majority of their time in the classroom, you would expect that they would be receiving instruction in such things as compassion, self-worth, social intelligence, and other facets that make us more well-rounded and functional adults. But, for the most part, our schools have cut many programs that sponsor this type of teaching (as well as greatly reducing the art programs), and have instead completely focused on academics. Adolescence is a time of development and maturation, and if our students are only learning facts and figures they are missing out on equally important SEL criteria.

SEL programs can benefit schools through:

  • decreased behavioral interventions
  • fewer suspensions and expulsions
  • greater test scores and academic performance
  • higher graduation rates/lower dropout rates  
  • calmer classrooms

Students who receive SEL programming (as compared with control groups) perform:

  • 9 percentile points lower in conduct problems
  • 11 percentile points higher in academic achievement

These students are also more likely to:

  • complete high school and college
  • have increased academic achievement in all grades and on into college

SEL Outcomes for Communities

SEL Outcomes for Communities

SEL Outcomes for Communities

Our communities are what make us feel belonging; they give us a sense of security, pride, and fellowship with others. We are constantly doing what we can to ensure that our community thrives and provides a safe environment for our youth. But we have to raise children who share this sentiment, this commitment to our community, if we want to continue to see our labors accomplished. Social-emotional learning teaches children the importance of relationships, with those close to them as well as to those that make up their community. Through instruction in compassion, trustworthiness, cultural awareness, and mindfulness (as well as a wide-ranging collection of other lessons), we are raising our children to be more socially-minded, responsible adults.

SEL programs benefit the community through:

  • lower crime rates among youth
  • decrease in “risky behaviors,” such as underage drinking, drug use, and teenage pregnancies
  • decrease in unemployment and generational poverty rates
  • 11:1 return on investment (ROI) from these programs (an average net value of $613,380 per participant)
  • more financial stability and employability  

 

“…if SEL goes up by one standard deviation, earnings go up by 4-15% for each individual student…which indicates very large long-term labor market effects from enhanced SE skills.” 4

Promoting SEL in Arkansas

SEL in Arkansas

SEL in Arkansas, what is it and why do we need it?

Social and emotional learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions. We at Hot Springs Community School and HeartBridge Learning Lab feel that social and emotional learning, and specifically sel in Arkansas, is not being taught in our public school system. We have become so focused, laser-focused, really, on standardized testing that we have left little room for teaching our students crucial lessons about how they should be interacting socially and emotionally with their peers and with their elders. Students have become apathetic and lazy and dependent in a way that no recent generation has.

Social and emotional skills are critical to our children’s ability to become good students, citizens, and humans in general. Watch the news and you will see our crime rates and drug use among the younger generations is unacceptably high; our dropout and teen pregnancy rates are, as well. Social and emotional education has been proven to reduce these risky behaviors in a way that no government program ever has. Changing their mindset from fixed and closed to that of a growth mindset is vital to changing their lives. Letting them know that they don’t have to continue down that dangerous road, and that they can change their lives for the better, is honestly one of the greatest things we can do as educators. What we want to do in this article is bring attention to the roots of the SEL movement, press for SEL in Arkansas and give readers an introduction into what we are doing at Hot Springs Community School.

Social and emotional learning is a phrase that has really only been around since the 1990s. It evolved from social competency studies done on the concept of emotional intelligence, jumpstarted by David Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. More recent research has led to studies done on how our brain responds to social stimuli, which has found that our brain needs social interaction on the same level as our bodies need food and water. Without it, our behavior and cognitive functions decrease at alarming rates.

To see examples of what happens to our bodies and minds when deprived of social interaction visit this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200307/the-dangers-loneliness

SEL has made gigantic leaps into the 21st Century. Organizations such as the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) have taken the research done by psychologists and translated it to the education sector. CASEL’s mission is “to help make evidence-based social and emotional learning (SEL) an integral part of education from preschool through high school. Through research, practice, and policy, CASEL collaborates to ensure all students become knowledgeable, responsible, caring, and contributing members of society.” Along with organizations like CASEL, many states have adopted SEL standards for their public school systems. Illinois and Kansas are two of the states with the best SEL standards, and many more state governments are beginning to follow suit. Also, Federal laws have been enacted to research and implement SEL standards in the United States. See: https://casel.squarespace.com/federal-policy-and-legislation/

Arkansas has traditionally been in the bottom third of states (36th this year) in education for many years. We are one of the poorest states, ranking at 44th, and Little Rock recently was named one of the top most dangerous cities in America due to crime. Our mission at Hot Springs Community School, as well as at HeartBridge Learning Lab, is to implement SEL in Arkansas and put our state on the path from mediocrity to exponential growth. We want our students to come out of high school prepared mentally, emotionally, and socially to meet the demands of the 21st Century. We want them to be able to adapt and grow, and we honestly believe that the only way to do this is by implementing a social and emotional learning curriculum. We are in the process of crafting this curriculum, complete with discussion topics and learning activities, that will change our children’s mindsets and give them the necessary life skills to succeed.